“The” golden rule to make yourself happy in a relationship is very simple: BE YOURSELF.
This may sound crazy to many readers. Of course you must be yourself in a relationship, who else could you be? And yet it is amazing how many women on a daily basis make one of the most common mistakes when they go out with a guy: they make their own world revolve around the partner. They adjust their own lifestyle for him, to make him fit, or to make sure that he does not leave them. Sorry to say this, but if you have to work so hard to make someone fit with your life or to make a relationship work, then the hint is clear: that relationship is not right for you. Of course relationships need work on a daily basis, little compromises are often necessary, but the work should be on both sides, not just your side. Moreover, the type of work required should not involve major changes in your life to the point where you lose your own identity.
The fact is that some women want so much to make the relationship succeed, that they deny who they are and what they want to give him whet they believe he wants. And they lie to themselves. They lie because they try to be something they are not. And they are being unfair to themselves. They are denying themselves the opportunity to be happy within their present relationship or maybe to meet a person with whom they could be happy. And the lie to him. They lie to him because they pretend to be something they are not. They build resentment towards him whilst he does not even have a clue about what is going on because he believes that she is happy! Why else would she be doing all the things she does if she were not happy? He would never do that and so it would never cross his mind that she would continue for months or years to do things that she does not like doing. It would not make any sense to him.
If you want to have a chance to be happy in a relationship, then allow yourself to “be yourself”. There is only so long you can keep up the act of being something you are not without feeling unhappy, depressed or resentful. You deserve better that, don’t you think?
Haa, tu dia some tips that i got from google for how to be happy in relationship. Kita tau bukannya korang larat pun nak baca semua tu kan? Takpelah, lantak korang :> I've done with my post. Chiawww :3